This has to be one of the biggest things I help women overcome, the guilt of taking time for themselves.
Its like this push pull where we know it is needed, but then when we take it, we beat ourselves up over it. The woman/mama guilt can be debilitating.
A simple exercise you can do to reframe the guilt it so look at from another perspective, feeling guilty about it is just one way to see it.
Ask yourself these simple questions.
1. Is there any evidence to support my feelings of guilt?
“I feel guilty leaving my kids to go and exercise’. Is there a reason to feel guilty? You believe everyone else has the right to get what they need, who gives them what they need? You? You can not continue to give from empty, it is a dangerous space to be, it is where burnout, mental illness and chronic stress live. If there is no evidence to your claim of guilt, then it is a story that you are choosing to attach yourself to. Release it and reframe it.
2. How will taking time to myself benefit my family/kids/husband/partner?
What does the time to yourself give you? Does it allow you to come back feeling energized, less stressed, more motivated, more clear headed, more relaxed, more inspired, have more patience? Identify what it is you need then go and take the time to get it.
Reframe the thoughts of guilt. Instead see it as a strength and a responsibility to yourself and those you love the most to give back to yourself so that you can continue to give.