It is majorly underestimated the magnitude of what it takes to be a mother, physically, emotionally and mentally.
If mum had a job description it would read: must be able to do everything, no sick leave, no holidays, must be available physically, mentally and emotionally 24/7.
So how can we go about staying mentally well under such extreme stress, that comes at us in all forms from all different angles?
Here are three tips to help you stay mentally well, in addition to staying active of course ;)
1. Be open with your journey to avoid burnout
As mums I think there is this unspoken expectation that we need to do it all, be everything to everyone else and not speak up about what is really going on for fear of judgement. The more we suffer in silence there is a higher risk of mental illness and burnout. The more we share what real life is like, the more we can create a new expectation of real life over perfection. I see the cost of this unsaid expectation on mothers who are breaking down, the simple act of being able to be honest in a judgement free safe space with other mothers who are feeling the same is priceless.
2. Find someone to speak to professionally
Mental health professionals are there to help you with tools to help you overcome mental and emotional challenges. You do not have to have a diagnosed mental illness to speak to someone professionally if you are struggling. As mums we have a LOT on our plates, as a part of self care a mental health professional can join that team to help you work through things without opinions and advice.
3. Uncover what you are lacking and seek to fill the void
What is it that you feel like you are missing? Is it connection, time in nature, feeling heard, movement? The list goes on. Once you can identify what is lacking you can work to fill the void with something that brings you joy and fulfillment.
Let me know in the comments your top tips to keeping mentally well.
Join the We Move For Mental Health Facebook group to watch my recent live video on all things parenting, prolapse and maternal health where I covered off on this topic.